I come across an article recently in which the author claims that one in seven people say that their long-term relationship partner is not the love of their life. Ouch!
According to research by Siemens Festival Nights (http://www.siemens.com/events/cc/en/festivalnight.php), 73 percent of the 2,000 participants said they were settling because they had missed their chance to be with their true love. In addition, 43 percent claim they would leave their current partner to be with their true love if they had the chance.
Why do people settle? According to the study, many would rather be with the wrong person rather than being alone. My advice: Learn to live with yourself!
When you settle, you’re left with a feeling that something’s missing in your life. Reminiscing about another person is not fair to your current partner. I’m sure he or she didn’t plan on being someone anyone would settle for. There’s no perfect person in this world, but there is someone perfect for you.
The article claims that the average person falls in love about twice in their lifetime, so if the love of your life has slipped away, you may have one more chance.
Remaining with a partner you believe you’ve settled for is not going to yield a healthy relationship in the end. Settling can lead to more disagreements, poor communication, less patience, and an overall sense of unhappiness. In this relationship, there’s no unconditional love which brings about commitment, forgiveness, and compassion. When you’re with the love of your life, these emotions come forth naturally.
So, if you feel you’ve never crossed paths with the love of your life, should you settle? The answer is no. Never settle. Learn to love yourself enough to know that settling is not the right choice for you.
I’ve met many beautiful, mature people who are alone, happy, and realized. Loving and being happy with yourself will give you the courage to be alone. Whose to say you need to be alone entirely? Go out with friends, have a hobby, travel, develop stronger relationships with your relationship with your family, or plan a date with yourself at home. Watch your favorite movie, take nice long baths; just be creative with your time, and you won’t feel lonely. Remember, the search for Mr. Right can be fun too.
To read the full article, visit http://www.bustle.com/articles/4064-1-in-7-people-say-their-long-term-relationship-partner-isnt-the-love-of-their-life.
Are you with the love of your life, or did you settle?
