So this year as others, I started a pretty ambitious New Year’s resolutions list. I was so proud of it. I completed it on December 31st.
It’s the first week in January and I’ve already thrown it out the window. Why do you ask? Because starting on the very first day, I realized I had set myself up for failure. My goals were not only unrealistic but after attempting the first few, I realized I’m not even the type person who could do any of that. My intention was not a setup. When I started to work on most of them, I just couldn’t do it. After reevaluating each one again, I had to be honest with myself. I am not the right person to accomplish some of those things. I can only be my old, imperfect me, and I can’t feel bad about that.
When setting goals for yourself, take into consideration your limitations, and be truthful about what you can, and are willing to do. Usually, goals you are willing to do will come naturally, because you desire to accomplish them.
Trying to pursue goals that are not right for me would have been frustrating and I know that after failing, I would have felt bad about myself. So what is the purpose of this post? If you can’t be truthful when creating goals for yourself, then don’t bother. In the end, it could do more harm than good.
If you still want to create a list or follow the one you already have, use it more as guidelines. Don’t allow them to rule your life or bring you down. If you find yourself feeling that way, throw it out, and try again next year.
I always thought making small goals is better than trying for that one big one. Something like drink more water and after a few months you can say I like to stop eating desserts. Instead of saying lose 50lbs by end of year. I think if you make small changes the big one will come later instead of never.