Paying for someone else’s mistakes

After being married for many years and going through a devastating divorce, I felt confident enough to start dating about a year ago. I was excited because I had given myself a full year to take care of myself both physically and emotionally. It took that much time for me to get over the hurt and resentment I was holding on to toward my previous relationship, which I felt had stripped me of my sense of security, trust, self-esteem and self-worth.
During the year, I’ve taken several approaches to meeting people. I’ve gone out with my girlfriends to bars, parties, and social gatherings, joined Internet dating sites, and have been on a few blind dates.
I must say that it’s been quite disappointing. There are many people out there still hurting over past relationships. Some have allowed themselves to shut down, and see anyone else who crosses their path as a potential threat for harm.
They’ve become extremely guarded, detached, and inconsiderate.
So I asked myself: Why should I pay for someone else’s mistakes? Get over the past before embarking on a new journey. There are lots of great people out there looking for true love, and lasting relationships. Not everyone is out to get you! Don’t allow the ghosts of the past to keep you from finding someone special. If you’re not ready to date, then don’t. If you’ve been hurt before, so you obviously know how it feels. Don’t continue the cycle. Give yourself time to get over your hurts, it’s only fair for you and your future partner.