Enough

When is enough, enough?

When a relationship causes more pain and suffering than joy and peace, how do we know when it’s time to move on? Is thinking about how good it was in the past keeping us from gaining the courage to leave? Or do we believe that with time and unconditional love will cover a multitude of sins? You may need to start to evaluate the reasons you have for remaining in a relationship that’s not right. You owe it to yourself to find answers to your struggles. Although love should be the core of every relationship, often times it’s not enough to maintain a healthy relationship. Determine what attracted you to this person in the first place, and the reality of who he/she really is and adds to your life. Do you have similar goals, aspirations, and values? Can you communicate at a level in which you feel respected and understood? If you answered “no” to the majority of the questions above, then you’ll have to figure out what’s keeping you in that relationship.

Is it fear, co-dependency, the hope of a brighter tomorrow? If “love” is your answer, then ask yourself if love will always be enough to get you from one disappointing moment to the next. Or should you rather take the chance to find a relationship that offers you what you need to grow?

Living in frustration and disappointment can lead to emotional distress. And this can cause negative behavior patterns to develop that can hinder future relationships. Breakups are hard, especially when feelings for the other person are prevalent. But once this devastating step is behind you, you can look forward to finding someone who will offer you the kind of love we all long for: comfort, peace, companionship, and respect.