Divorce is one of the most stressful life events a person can experience. Whether you were the one who sought the divorce or not, its effects, if not dealt with quickly and effectively, could dawdle longer than they should.
Overcoming the painful effects of a divorce is not easy, but a little focus and self-determination will determine how fast and how well this will happen.
- Take care of yourself. Get regular exercise and eat nutritious meals.
- Seek professional help. A counselor can help you develop coping skills, and the ability to get your children through their healing process.
- Develop a support system. Keep at hand family members and friends who can be there for you when you relapse, feel lonely, can care for your children, or help with household needs.
- Set new goals.Seek new opportunities, get a degree, starting a new career, whatever you feel you can handle.
- Establish new routines. Develop new patterns for daily life, new traditions.
- Develop new friendships. Your social ties are likely to change. You might lose some mutual friends, and relatives. Seek healthy and exciting new relationships that can add fun and variety to your new life.
- Don’t fall into a new relationship right away.It takes time to heal from a divorce.Give yourself that opportunity.Don’t rush into anything. You may bring negative feelings into the new relationship, and loose what may be a lasting, healthy new start.
- Make the decision to move on and stick to it.No one can do this for you.Most divorces are permanent.The sooner you make this decision, the sooner you’ll be on the road to recovery.
Going through a divorce is hard. Its effects if left unattended, can lead to unnecessary heartache. Remember, nothing lasts forever and you can rebuild your life as many others have. Planning a new life can be exciting if you take it a step at a time, and try not to do it all alone.